How many "never more" are there in your life? (II)
A few days ago we commented that "never more" is a painful, sad experience that implies accepting what we never thought could happen to us and that is quite the opposite to our will and desire. However, we have no choice but to face it if we do not want to get sick either physically or mentally.
This growth process is also a source of life and hope if we are able to integrate it into our lives. Since birth we have believed that we were the center of the world, even if it was unconscious because when we wanted something they gave it to us and if we were bad they would attend us without asking for it. The "never more" help us to touch our feet to the ground, to realize that we are not perpetual children and that the world does not turn around or things become as we imagine. The reality is hard, difficult but when we accept it and adapt to it, it is when we can make great discoveries and eventually create something surprising.
The "never more" or traumatic and unfathomable situations that we find in our daily lives are neither desirable nor beloved, they do not serve them à la carte or when we ask for them but they are fundamental paths of personal transformation.
Great literate artists and, in general, people who are able to contact their inner world secret can develop their most prized capabilities after experiencing breakaway situations and experiences. They can then see life, human relationships and even death in a different way, with more sensitivity and more tenderness. Life can take on a new meaning, more real, less beautiful but more authentic. It is no longer sought, if the loss processes have been integrated into life, an ideal world or people look outside, or an everlasting happiness that is the result of repeating or prolonging the same experience. The center of life is not to stay well or to do what others want, but the person becomes increasingly humble and simple and at the same time more creative and profound with wisdom that transcends through the eyes and words.
I hope you do not find many "never again" but if you can not avoid it, you can deal with them with determination and honesty, surely in a weeping and emptiness, knowing that "never again" things will not be to your liking but that behind the mountain There are some surprising and surprising possibilities that can lead you to get to know yourself better and to be the protagonist of new experiences and relationships.
Eduard Fonts, psychologist.