How many "never more" are there in your life? (I)
After a few years of work as a psychologist, one realizes that one of the most difficult things in life is to face what we call "never more". Never again will I be young, I will never study with those peers again, or I will never work again for the last couple of years, or I will never play football again because I am already big, or ... infinite situations throughout the Life that we have left behind, expectations and illusions that we have abandoned over the years. We have to admit that it is hard to accept it and not get stuck in these losses! But there are still tougher losses, people, jobs, ways of thinking, injustices that we have experienced in their own flesh, diseases, terminal situations ... and then it is when we realize that life is not as we expected, We feel we lack people or hopes that filled and have a place inside us. What a pain, what discouragement and how much lower defenses and energy and how often it costs to face daily living! All that we have just described is at the heart of our lives. As we look at these situations, we will live better or we will experience life. As we integrate the losses and losses in our internal world we will be more or less free, as we understand and acknowledge the evil that have made us disappointments and disappointments we can help those who are next to us and be people with joy and good humor. Let's be clear, in the way of integrating and dealing with the strongest pains we can be or not be positive, creative and creative people. And it is not worthless to say that I have forgotten it, or that it has happened or even me does not affect me, because the wound will be deepened and sooner or later we will be billed. "The never more" is a profound and painful experience that has already begun at birth and that conditions our whole life. Our hopes and challenges, our sense of life and our way of relating us have a lot to do with how we have been educated and how we face frustration and separation.
Anyway, the path that tells us "the never more" is not only steep but it is the path of change, growth and creativity, life and joy as we will comment on a next article.