First you must love yourself! (3)
Last day we talked about the difference between loving oneself and being selfish and since something has nothing to do with the other. And today we want to talk about another misunderstanding: that of thinking that if I do not love you I will love more the others, or in other words, that if I want to love others, I do not have to love me too much.
When the person does not end up loving oneself, or valuing themselves or simply is not too beautiful, what makes them despise what is pleasant and positive they have. This creates discomfort with the people who love him since he is telling them that they love someone who has no value ... when others think so and they see many qualities. If this happens in the couple the message that is transmitted is that of being installed in the complaint and discouragement, and although he does not want it makes the couple feel frustrated, incapable of their love and attention 'Help those who love them most. In other words, we need to ask for help and recognize what is happening to us, since without us we are doing harm to ourselves and to those who love us.
However, we should not make blood or mistreat ourselves when we realize that we suffer from others. The worst remedy to overcome the little self-esteem is to hurt oneself and punish yourself not to end up loving oneself. Neither despise nor blame or discourage help you live better.
We all have lived through our lives painful experiences in which we have felt little loved or that we were second-table dishes (with or without intention of others) and this has made us unconsciously believe that we were not valuable enough or we did not value enough sorrow We have come to convince ourselves internally that we were little and then we tend to be losers, not to mention what we feel, think or can create.
If we do not dare to love us for what we are, we must be able to love ourselves for what others love us. We make an act of trust in others since they are not contaminated by the disappointments and frustrations that we drag. And we think that if we decide to love ourselves a little more, those that surround us will be happier and will live happier! A good reason to start loving yourself!
Eduard Fonts, psychologist.