Manage emotions (1) unpleasant news.
Manage emotions (1) Nasty news.
We have lived through important days and situations, and those who come, though it seems lying, will be more. We propose five steps for when we hear of unpleasant or very encouraging news:
1. Let us hear what we feel. We express with words what goes through us. We try to exteriorize it in favorable and welcoming places. It is not the time to discuss.
2. Let us know that what we feel is not absolute truth or we have understood everything as it is. We have to be aware that we are afraid or are happy, not only because we listen or see but our way of being, sometimes fearful, or more idealistic, or more avoidable, or more negative ...
So let's not let ourselves be carried away by the moment or emotions. The internal and external reality are more complex than we feel at any given moment.
3. Once we are a bit more aware of how we have experienced the emotional part, we think a little about what we have heard and what is happening. We listen to other opinions and other emotions, as well as different reflections and even from people other than us. They will help us not let emotions dominate us and have a more realistic opinion.
4- What can I do? We have to mobilize ourselves, do I have to find information? Do I have to offer myself to help? Conversations with friends, or fight mates? Or just put or use symbols?
5- And if I'm a unionist, do I have to defend my views as well? Looking for arguments to refute what the sovereigns say or think?
6- Disconnect at certain times. Our psychicism can only hold a certain degree and a certain time of tension and emotion. And each one has to find his measure because we will do it: Listen to music, go for a walk, go for a coffee, sleep a lot, go to the movies, talk about beasts ... You do not have to live with intensity. Let's rest on the neurons and muscles, and the hormones will be more in place. Once you have rested or have been able to look at different things, we can work and act more in accordance with our ideas and feelings.
Eduard Fonts, psychologist.
Manresa / Lleida