"No is most powerful when you can say yes"
Saying yes or saying does not seem easy but on the contrary it is one of the most risky expressions of life. A no or a yes have strength based on the moment, the context and especially if the person dares to be free to be able to answer. Some people often say no to the beginning, like young children that there is a stage in which they say no more, just to take the opposite and to see the reaction of adults and especially their parents. But when we are older, at all we tend to say is not that we have settled in the denial or in the frivolity of wanting to affirm and emphasize giving us an opinion that does not depend so much on our thinking as on the opinion of who we have in front. I think that the politician who delivered this sentence a few days ago precisely wanted to avoid having it for a person who changes his shirt according to the winds blowing. And certainly in fundamental aspects of the unity of Spain and respect for Catalonia has not changed anything, and what is stronger, would not allow it either! On the other side, we have to recognize that many people are easier to say than yes, but not to refuse to do something or choose different according to their own taste, thinking or personal situation. Saying not with sense and judgment is not very easy and psychologically speaking is as complicated as there is. We have been educated by small children in a specific direction: that of being obedient if we want to be good children and good children and that means yes to what parents, educators and, in general, older people tell us. Saying can not make you laugh at some point if it is understood as a grace that the baby does but will not be well accepted if the little one shows a taste or will different from that of adults. Then it will easily be punished either with glances, words or even with a tone of voice higher than normal. Say no with sense and responsibility can only be done when the person feels sufficiently confident in their opinions and decisions and is not afraid of the reaction of others. When he can assume that others can get angry, when their well-being goes ahead of wanting to stay well or want to content everyone. To know how to say yes and know how to say has nothing to do with a technique or a theoretical knowledge but with the self-esteem we have, or with the dependence with which we live and the responsibility we want to assume in life. That is why this "popular" politician emphasized his ability to say yes so that he did not confuse him with an opinionable person when he says no to certain dogmatisms or carcasses that sound like electoral cosmetics.
Eduard Fonts